Have you ever seen the Spongebob show? He works at this place called the Crab Shack and they serve crabby patties. Well a crabby patty is my name for someone who is not being nice or is being crabby.
I often refer to my husband as a crabby patty and I, too can be a big one.
Well today, I had a long conversation with an extreme crabby patty. Without going into details I will just say that it was not pleasant. I do not consider myself a half glass full, rah rah kind of cheery person. I certainly know how to complain and I feel like I definitely keep it real when I talk about a given situation rather than only commenting on the "silver lining."
I do think though, there is a difference between a little complaining and bashing people by telling many consecutive stories about what a horrible person they are for approximately 45 minutes straight. Not nice! For all the times I have defended a little negativity as a healthy way to get things off my chest, I never want to be so negative that I make other people feel uncomfortable. Never ever!
Sometimes ultra happy people can be a little off putting to me, but it is certainly better to have an outlook on life and other people that reflects the good that you can find in them rather than the bad.
Going back to my frustrated post the other day about the girl in class who upset me because she did not do her reading and did not participate....I found out yesterday that she is hardcore Spicegirls fan and flew all the way to Vegas to see one of their reunion concerts. She talked about her obsession with the group in an animated and excited way and so it struck me, that everyone has good days and bad days, good moments and bad moments and this girl seems pretty nice...maybe just shy? It took talking about the Spicegirls to get her excited, but everyone has different things in life that excite them and get them interested in conversation. Although, yes, I was frustrated by her behavior, I want to say that I recognize she is not a bad person. Maybe she spread herself too thin with classes, maybe she is dealing with the stress of being laid off, maybe her health problems are getting in the way of a good night's sleep (yes I learned all of these things about her by talking to her and trying to get to know her a little better) and I found that I really sympathized with her and felt badly for judging her.
Here's to trying to be a little more rah-rah and a little less crabby patty!
What are your thought? Is it okay to complain or is it pointless? If you need to vent who do you call?